Category: Life Stories

  • Tûrî A Mûmbi: A perfect escape to reconnect with Kikuyu Culture

    Tûrî A Mûmbi: A perfect escape to reconnect with Kikuyu Culture

    She sent me an Instagram post of a newspaper story featuring Kwame. It was about the healing power of birdsong. In the caption, Kwame had offered a call to action to visit Tûrî A Mûmbi Arts Centre in Tigoni. We should go! She said.

    And so we did, two weeks later. To nourish our souls with spiritual messages from our ancestors.

    It was going to be our first date. Our first interaction was when she sent me a message on Instagram thanking me for the Vipassana meditation article I had written in 2018. And we hit it off immediately. 

    *Cue It goes down in the DM*. 

    Countless voice notes and an accidental video call later, we moved to WhatsApp. And then she sent me this post.

    Rûgendo

    On a warm Saturday in August, she picks me up in Roysambu at exactly noon. We use Thika Road and later join Limuru Road because the Northern Bypass is messy. And we talk throughout like old friends. Google Maps becomes our guide. Or rather, the third wheel. 

    After Banana town, we stop chatting to catch our breath at the sights unravelling before us. So this is why people (including her) love Limuru. It is absolutely picturesque. Rolling hills of green tea farms colour our vision and white tiny clustered houses dot the vast land. 

    Limuru rolling hills – try saying that three times, fast.

    Further ahead, we drive past private properties and houses that are shrouded in greenery. You’d almost think you’re in Muthaiga. If it was not for the biting cold, you would probably live there someday.

    One hour later, Google Maps tells us we’re almost there. Then we miss it.  Apparently, we were using the wrong Google Maps’ location. That was the old venue for Kwame’s Tûrî A Mûmbi concerts since 2017.

    Even though we are in a new place, this is not the time to panic. Daily meditation has taught us this. We call the number she had used to book our reservation. The man on the other side directs us to the right Tûrî A Mûmbi. He stands near the main road so that we can see him in his brown cashmere coat. 

    Tûrî A Mûmbi

    Once parked under a tree away from the main road, we say a prayer of thanks to Mwene Nyaga. Waiting for us outside is a wooden gate made of twigs, flanked by red earthen walls. A wooden sign hangs above telling us we are in the right place. I’m actually relieved it’s not a standard iron gate like in most event venues. 

    Its sheer simplicity betrays what is hiding inside.

    As soon as we walk in, I switch to my Kikuyu language settings. The place demands it. I stumble throughout with my elementary knowledge but nobody laughs. Not even Kwame. 

    Kihara, our first contact, points out that there are only two signs written in Swahili – “Chunga siafu” and “Vyoo”. Even the price list sign at the entrance is in Kikuyu. My first lesson is learning the difference between atûûri and ooki – other than the entrance fee. Nî waigua! 

    Turi A Mumbi Tigoni entrance fees

    Once we pay our dues via MPESA, we step into Tûrî A Mûmbi. It opens up to a lush green garden with tall trees guarding the fringes. There’s a playground – Ha Ciana – on the right. I’m immediately tempted to go on the swing. Can I be a child again? 

    The Karûma restaurant is the main building in the compound. Instead of sitting down, we head towards the washroom. The Aka and Arûme signs almost confuse us for a second. 

    Turi A Mumbi Tigoni toilets

    As I wash my hands on the sink outside, I realize Karûma has an outdoor kitchen reminiscent of an African home. A bubbling sufuria balances on three stones on top of firewood. And the welcoming waitress takes our food order as we go exploring.

    Ndururumo

    We start with the waterfall. One wooden sign advises us to take it slow. I close my eyes, take a deep breath in and allow the fresh crisp air to flow into my nostrils. 

    As I descend the steps leading to the waterfall, I start smiling. There’s a mighty Mugumo tree ahead of us. It spreads above us, enveloping us while showing off its grandeur from the leaves to the roots. Hairy tendrils hanging from its branches feel like fingers reaching down to bless us. 

    At the bottom of the stairs, we get a full view of the waterfall. I spend a few minutes in silence observing the bubbly water spill over the glistening rocks. Its swishing sound fills the space between us and our thoughts. 

    How romantic would it be to exchange your wedding vows on that wooden deck? We muse. Love brewed between the waterfall and the mugumo.

    Mugumo tree at Turi A Mumbi Arts Centre Tigoni

    Mûtitû

    Our next adventure awaits. But we were not ready. The innocently mentioned forest trail turns out to be one rough bumpy ride. 

    After a call for help, Kihara comes to help us navigate the beginning of the muddy trail (it had rained the past two days). I see it as a metaphor for life: sometimes we need someone to unstuck us.

    After ascending down the first slope (read sliding), he leaves us to continue. Luckily we both have black pants on and closed shoes worthy of hiking.

    Our daily yoga and rope-jumping practices had unconsciously prepared our bodies for this unexpected adventure in the thick untamed forest. 

    It’s teamwork, leave no woman behind.  We squeeze under bent branches and jump over aerial roots. We hold each other’s hands and show each other which branch to balance with. We laugh at each other, scream when we slide and encourage each other you can do it

    “When is the last time someone said I need you?” she asks.

    Kikuyu sign at Turi A Mumbi Arts Centre Tigoni

    Once in a while, we stop at scenic spots to catch a breath and return to the present. Close our eyes and inhale the fresh forest air. Aah. 

    We watch strange insects crawling on a twig – they always know how to make you be in the now. We also see vehicles swishing past on the main Banana-Raini Road. Its passengers unaware of this hidden paradise.

    In the middle of this forest, I reflect on how we sometimes need to stop and relax during our journey – another metaphor for life.

    We also hear children laughing in the distance. They must be so wild and free, walking barefoot and unafraid of little bugs. The way we are supposed to be.

    After struggling through the ups and downs of this slippery path, we finally get to the bridge Kihara had mentioned. I had assumed crossing the river would be on a regular wooden bridge. Easy peasy, I tell my friend. I had forgotten the third agreement: Don’t make any assumptions.

    What we find instead, is a rope running across the two sides, a few rocks and a hollow log to step on. This is the final test. But I mean, it’s only a few metres wide. 

    I dare to start, holding the rope with one hand and balancing my collected trash on the other. As I balance on the log, I see a cluster of mushrooms growing on it. This must be a sign. If only I knew the toxic from the healing mushrooms, I would have picked them as well.

    With my sure-footedness I balance easily. My friend stands on the other side watching my calculated moves. I am almost home. 

    In the final leg, I insert one foot on what looks like a rock inside the water. Suddenly I feel my left foot tumbukiza into the chilly water like boiled meat. Another metaphor: don’t trust what you cannot see.

    My friend crosses over afterwards, scared but unscathed.

    Turi A Mumbi Limuru forest trail sign

    The final stretch is an uphill battle. We spot another wooden sign on a tree. We’re almost there.

    A few feet away from the trail, we spot a mini bench that can fit one, maybe two people. I ask my friend if we should check it out, it seems like a perfect picnic site overlooking the river. She says no, emphatically.

    Disappointed, we trudge on. 

    The moment we had been waiting for. We finally land on flat land. The scenery changes. Instead of a flight of stairs, a string of planted trees leads us to heaven. Beyond this spacious forest, we can see the familiar green lawn. And the source of the river which we had crossed minutes ago. 

    Instead of using the easy path, I convince my friend to jump over the narrow river. The final hurdle. One more adventure wouldn’t hurt, would it?

    Karûma Restaurant

    It’s unclear how long we’ve been gone. But there are more people in the compound. We are not the only woke Kenyans in town. 

    Three uptown ladies are seated on one bench, with glass water bottles on their rustic table. We sit on two wooden chairs on a round table near the playground. We are more than ready to eat (after washing our muddy hands that is). 

    After exchanging looks with the waitress, our food finally arrives in wooden bowls and spoons. Now this is the cutlery I want, I tell myself. Who wants to buy fragile plates and cups over and over again?

    My mûkimo tastes even better than it looks, with a piece of yellow pepper decorating it at the top. Probably because the mashed meal was made with groundnuts and fried with onions which are still visible. I also munch on my friend’s fried arrowroots (with her permission of course). Why didn’t anyone tell me how crunchy fried arrowroots tasted?

    For a moment, I cannot believe all the ndûma I missed growing up just because I loathed it. My mother says I used to question why ndûmas should be purplish in colour instead of an appealing colour such as cream or white. Like bread, or biscuits.

    I have another theory: all the sweets and sodas I was exposed to as a child prevented me from appreciating its raw earthy taste. But now I’m grown. And I have taste.

    Next to our starches are traditional green vegetables in smaller bowls. One can still see the stalks and seeds contrasted by the white onions and red tomatoes. Surprisingly, these bitter herbs are just as savoury.

    Our dessert comes just when the infamous cold starts seeping into our bones. Warm porridge served in a calabash as per Kikuyu tradition. It tastes so sweet – even without sugar. I always say drinking sugarless porridge is an acquired taste – which I acquired when I was in Murang’a for 3 months

    After insisting, the waitress tells us that it’s made from maize and sorghum flour.

    White porridge in calabash at Turi A Mumbi Tigoni

    Before we leave, I have to honour the founders of our community: Gĩkûyû and Mûmbi. Mûmbi is seated not too far away on a log, holding her own kîihuri. I wonder whether she’s also drinking ûcûrû.

    Her legs are crossed at the ankles as Agîkûyû women should sit – we are told. 

    Adjacent, Gîkûyû the father of the nation, sits on his three-legged iron throne. He looks like absolute royalty in his kingly hat; his staff and whisk show leadership. He has an intense gaze towards something we cannot see.

    He’s facing Mt Kenya. Kîrînyaga.

    Kûinûka

    We leave at 6 pm as it’s getting dark and even colder. When in doubt, always carry a sweater – especially in Limuru. I wave goodbye at Kwame who is seated on a bench next to the river. He’s talking with a lady who looks like his wife, based on the Ni Ngwendete music video

    As we walk out, I ask Kihara what the tiny grass-thatched hut next to the children’s playground is all about. He explains that in the past, Kikuyu elders and wise men would sit there. And today, Kwame teaches his children from there. 

    Did you see a bench like that in the forest? That is also their classroom, he casually mentions. We look at each other after hearing this new concept: Forest schools.

    It’s only in the car that we express our true reactions. We spend the next 10 minutes on the highway in hysteria. I mean, who does that?

    I knew Kwame homeschooled his children and that they call him Awa instead of baba. But what level of homeschooling do you call that? In the freaking forest! Kwame did not come here to play! He’s going the whole way!

    In Kikuyu we call it kûmaka! 

    My friend was probably right. Kwame Rigii is a reincarnated ancestor. He’s not just a Kikuyu musician but a cultural icon. He transformed Tûrî A Mûmbi from a phrase to a place, a slogan to a society. 

    We would have loved to spend more time with him, soaking ancient wisdom from this living elder. To sit by his feet and learn how Gĩkûyû and Mûmbi lived. This was simply our first sip in the well of Kikuyu wisdom.

    Kihara was a great host from the beginning to the end. Who looked like Kwame’s brother. After all, Tûrî A Mûmbi

    Turi A Mumbi Gikuyu and Mumbi statues

    Gûcoka

    We went there for Kwame Rigii, the Kikuyu culture, the new environment and to know each other. We left there with muddy pants (Nyambura’s at the bottom) and a stained trench coat (mine). Plus satisfied stomachs filled with wholesome food that tasted just like cûcû’s – no extra spices, simply seasoned with love. 

    Our bodies were surprisingly energized from the intense hike. It did not tramp on us, only made us stronger. Our laden spirits were renewed by the sound of flowing water and the breath of the life-giving trees. And more connected to our ancestral roots. 

    After that first experience, I cannot wait to go back and get some more with my nephews and nieces, brothers and sisters. The arts and cultural centre is open from Tuesday to Sunday, from 9 am to 6 pm. But you have to reserve beforehand via call or Whatsapp: 0758 212 581.

    If you’re not driving like we were, you can board a matatu at Khoja in Nairobi CBD to Banana town. The fare is roughly 70 Kenyan shillings. Once in Banana, board a matatu to Tigoni (number 116). Even the touts know where Turi A Mumbi is. 

    The entrance fee to this Tigoni paradise is currently Ksh 500 for adults and Ksh 200 for children under 12. There’s lots to do once you’re inside: let the children roam and play, do a photoshoot, have a book reading session, host a private event, check out the African arts and crafts. Or attend one of Kwame’s popular concerts like his Kinya Nginye album listening party.

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CPw0Wa7rjWi/

    And once in a while, weekend Gikuyu classes for children set in nature. Accompanied by three little birds and their timeless music. 

  • How I’m learning to speak Kikuyu as an adult

    How I’m learning to speak Kikuyu as an adult

    I wish I grew up speaking my mother tongue. I really do. If I could go back to the past, that’s one thing I would change. I would ask my mother to speak to me consistently until I spoke back.

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  • Here’s What Really Happened at Kilifi New Year 2020

    Here’s What Really Happened at Kilifi New Year 2020

    I didn’t know how I was getting to Kilifi. I mean, I’ve been there before so I should know the drill.

    However, the SGR train to Mombasa was fully booked. And the only available buses from Nairobi to Kilifi would arrive on the second day of Kilifi New Year.

    I was stuck. If only I had booked that night bus before Christmas.

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  • How To Let Go of Suffering with Vipassana Meditation Retreat

    How To Let Go of Suffering with Vipassana Meditation Retreat

    A gong sounds at 4am. Repetitively. It’s the only alarm clock present; the early birds haven’t even woken up yet. You stir slightly in bed waiting for the ringing seconds to end. Eventually, the gong wins and you open your eyes. It’s the first day of Vipassana meditation.

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  • 10 Things Nobody Told You About Being A Writer

    10 Things Nobody Told You About Being A Writer

    About a year ago I got a Random email from one of my readers (Yeah, that’s what he called it). This particular reader felt like he could write, but found all kinds of excuses not to. I guess he wanted some unsolicited advice.

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  • Remembering 2016 

    Remembering 2016 

    morogoro-sunset

    I really don’t get the hype around the new year. Sure, it’s no longer 2016 and we won’t be writing it down anymore in our notebooks. But isn’t this just a new month, a new day. A continuation of yesterday?

    Anyway, the new year is the perfect time to reflect upon what happened in the last 12 months. Recall the highs and lows. Be grateful for all the wonderful experiences.

    Unlike most, 2016 was one of those good years for me. Here’s a recap of the highlights of 2016.

     

    Crushing

    Remember a couple of months ago when I told you I had a little crush, on a Kenyan poet? The only thing I wanted was to see him again. Well, my bucket list is now full. For I did meet him again. Not once, but twice.

    I am still a huge fan of his deep emotional work. I long to watch him perform some more this year. He reads the blog once in awhile; I suspect he might be reading this right now.

    Still ain’t giving out his name though.

     

    Travel

    It’s hard to forget the incredible Diani beach holiday back in July. My first trip to the quiet South Coast beach location. Even though it was a fun experience, I felt like I didn’t do enough of what I wanted to. Barely ticked half of the ‘things to do’ list.

    However, I enjoyed what I could. Activities like snorkeling, camel rides on the white beach and biking on the serene Diani road.

    What I didn’t tell you was that I had a grueling time creating that post. Taking photos is no problem at all. Choosing which to post and editing them is the challenge. Maybe in 2017, I will finally befriend that artsy guy called Photoshop.

    For my end of year trip to Tanzania, I set no expectations or to-do lists. Instead, I chose to go with the flow, and it is paying off. I’m currently enjoying whatever each day brings.

    I’m currently enjoying whatever each day brings. Going to the beach as often as I can. (Cue Starships by Nicki Minaj). Eating a mango (or two) a day. Craving mkwaju juice constantly. Learning dance moves from my Southern African friends. Basically enjoying life and music in Dar es Salaam.

     

    Fan love

    I probably didn’t tell you about the time I found myself in the company of my favorite Kenyan band. In fact, I have told very few people about this incredible story.

    Of how I visited my friend during his radio show, and him slipping out the best news I could possibly imagine. That H_art the freaking Band would be on air during the next show. On USIU freaking Radio.

    So I did what LaMusicJunkie had to do. Waited eagerly for them to show up. When I spotted them trooping into the studio, my heart jumped with childish excitement. The studio was full and dark by the time I got in. But that didn’t mean it couldn’t contain my big musical heart.

    From the beginning of the show, they knew I was their fan. It wasn’t hard to figure it out. I constantly grinned like a little kid. Sang along to all their songs, as if I was at their live concert.

    The band caught me by surprise that day. They were fun and easy going. They even laughed at my jokes. (Okay, maybe just one).

    Mordecai even sang one of their popular hits for me on air. As his sweet voice filled up the small studio singing Nikikutazama, blood rushed to my cheeks. I was blushing like a girl who had just got her first kiss from her crush.

    After the thrilling show, we took photos with the Kenyan band to prolong the memory. I still haven’t received mine, is how Nashon?

    Since the three stylish musicians were famished, they were directed to the school cafeteria. And guess what, I was invited!

    I felt like I was finally one of the cool kids.

    As we ate our mashed sweet potatoes and beef stew, I just couldn’t believe it. Yes, sweet potato mukimo is the bomb. But also that they would let me hang out with them. Is this what happens when you love an artist so much? Does this make me a groupie now?

    Chira the poet is hilarious. He’s definitely the comedian in the group. Mordecai Mwini, the lead singer does not say much; he’s mostly quiet until he goes on stage. There he turns into a musical beast.

    Kenchez the guitarist is a blend of the two. He’s in the middle, calm yet excitable. They all carry around this eccentrism in their hair, clothes and music. Rasta flows easily in their Kenyan blood. Kayoleshwa would be proud.

     

    The Alchemist

    2016 was the year LaMusicJunkie discovered the secret hub of Kenyan celebrities. They call it the Alchemist; a cool uptown bar cleverly hidden in Parklands. It is where all the local celebrities hide throughout the week and weekend.

    There I have met so many famous faces, it left my head reeling. Especially during my first Mi Casa concert.

    Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine I would gain backstage access to such a huge concert. Be in the same space with greats like Sauti Sol, and watch them get ready for their surprise performance with the South African band. It was completely surreal.

    In that moment I tried my best to restrain the fangirl in me from coming out. I had to stop myself from confessing my long lasting love for the band. Act cool Joy. This is backstage forchristsake.

    But don’t get me wrong. I am quite the shy one when it comes to talking to celebrities. I can barely approach them by myself. They have this lofty air around them that simply intimidates me. Is it only me?

    So I had to be pushed to talk to them during various events. Some I let pass me without uttering a word, following them quietly with my stares.

    A few connected friends were kind enough to introduce me to others. Like K1 aka Makmende who is a regular DJ at the outdoor bar. Mayonde was so sweet, she even called me pretty. But you should see her in person. Petite et belle.

     

    Bloggers Club

    Away from meeting celebrities, another moment of the year was highlighting my favorite local blogs. A writer’s got to read a lot too, you know.

    I came up with two lists, consisting both known and underrated Kenyan blogs. Hopefully, more people will also become enchanted by these talented Kenyan writers and their moving work.

    This has also led me to create connections with some of these writers I admire. Getting a free ebook from Dora of Nilichoandika. Doing an editing stint for the fast growing blog Kisauti. Meeting Imali of Don’t Date a Writer, who was quite shy to say hi. (What’s up girl?)

    And most recently being in the same space as a younger writer whom I look up to. Mike Muthaka. One year counts as being older, right Mike?

    2017 will be a good year for writing.

    Icing on the cake 

    The biggest surprise of the year was meeting my role model. The guy I absolutely look up to. His name, Jackson Biko – or JB as I like to call him – of the popular Kenyan blog Bikozulu. You must have heard of him by now.

    I met him not in an airport waiting room, or an uptown restaurant. But in a mere city hospital. He was the patient, I the receiver. It’s funny because he was the one who was warm and inviting. Made me feel as if we were long-time pals.

    That extraordinary day is forever etched in my memory. And on the blog too.

    As if luck was on my side, I met JB once again. This time he let me interview him. It’s crazy when I think about it sometimes – I, a young writer who’s only had her feet in the murky literary waters for barely a year, interviewing Biko. He truly made my year.

    These past 12 months has been full of incredible experiences that I could not have predicted. 2016 has taught me that if you really want something, the Universe will help you get it. Really, anything. There’s nothing you cannot be, do or have in this world.

     

    Thank you

    I can’t end this post without thanking a few people. People who’ve made this blogging journey easy. Smoothing down the road bumps. Pushing me up the hills, and slowing me down before I went too fast and crashed.

    Mwaniki has been the best editor I could ask for. His constructive criticism and positive reinforcement have built my confidence as a writer. He’s the one who polishes up my pieces with his waxing fingers before they meet your fresh eyes.

    They say your friends don’t consume your work. But it’s been the opposite for me. Wendi has been a close friend and my biggest cheerleader, lifting me up even when I don’t think I deserve it. She makes me feel like a better writer than I think I am.

    Music junkies, I see you. And to the silent fans, who are usually the first to read as soon as a new post notification pops up in their inbox, I appreciate you. Always know that your feedback counts more than the likes. Whether on the comment section or on WhatsApp.

    Now let me bring it back to you. What did you enjoy from LaMusicJunkie in 2016? What are you looking forward to seeing this new year? I’ll be quiet now and let you speak.

    Just one more thing. Je t’aime.

  • Guess whose Birthday it is

    Guess whose Birthday it is

    birthday cake

    Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday LaMusicJunkiee… Happy birthday to you!

    How old are you now?

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  • Writing advice from Chocolate Man

    Writing advice from Chocolate Man

    dark chocolate pieces
    Chocolate Man was here – 2016

    A few months ago, I interviewed a really big guy over here. A guy so big he fits in an award-winning blog, several Kenyan newspapers, and magazines all at once. How does he do it?

    He’s got plenty of titles too. A writer, husband, father, imaginary mentor.

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  • Guess Who Made A Video!

    Guess Who Made A Video!

     

    This past week can only be described in one word…  Heeectic!

    (Please ignore the smile on my face).

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  • 5 simple tricks to keep you positive all day

    5 simple tricks to keep you positive all day

    There are some days when you wake up with a huge smile plastered on your face. You’re in a good, no jovial mood, and you don’t know where it came from. But you don’t care because it’s a great feeling.

    Secretly, we wish all mornings were like that.

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